Favorite Quotes

Consciousness can transcend both nature and nurture ~ Bruce Lipton

“It’s human nature to change human nature.” ~ Unknown

“It’s a joy to be hidden and a disaster not to be found.” ~ D.W. Winnicott

“Some say the world is a vale of tears, I say it is a place of soul-making.” ~ John Keats

“I kept trying to make others see my worth instead of seeing it for myself.” ~ Steve Demasco

“Treat you body so well that your soul has pleasure living in it.” ~ Anonymous

“Better guilt than resentment; then at least you get to do what you want to do.” ~ Unknown

“To view your life as blessed does not require you to deny your pain.” ~ Nancy Mairs

“Only the closed mind is certain.” ~ from the film Dean Spanley

“I cried often, and it gave me a sense of calm afterwards. Clarity developed because of it, mostly because I was not trying to be anything other than what I was experiencing. That was something I was learning: what it meant to love myself enough to be honest with my own experience.” ~ Swan Ramachi

“If you ask me what I came into this world to do, I will tell you: I came to live out loud.” ~ Emile Zola




The Paradox of Relationship: “I alone must become myself; I cannot become myself alone.”

First Stage of Love:           Love without Knowledge

Second Stage of Love:           Knowledge without Love

Third Stage of Love:           Love with Knowledge

(Terrence Real)

“If you believe in love at first sight, then you’re always looking.” Closer

“To give up living [romantic relationships] by projection means to pull most of the artificial intensity out of relationship; it means that things will seem quieter and less exciting…to [a person’s] ego it feels as though he is impoverishing his human relationship or cheating himself. At first he feels that half the his human relationship or cheating himself. At first he feels that half the thrills, excitement, fun and intensity is taken out of human relationship. With time he learns that his soul-life never really belonged there and that his human relationship is actually thriving better without it; but for a time, it feels dismal.” Robert Johnson

“There are two questions we have to ask ourselves. The first is ‘Where am I going?’ And the second is ‘Who will go with me?’  If you ever get these questions in the wrong order, you are in trouble.” Howard Thurman

To ask (consciously or unconsciously) someone to complete us or make us happy is “to make [that person] into something that she [he] cannot possibly be. This is asking something outer to fill an inner need.” Robert Johnson

“When I get lonely these days, I think: So be lonely, Liz. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it…But never again use another person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings.”
From Eat Pray Love, Liz Gilbert

“The romantic love story is a paradoxical fusion of two extraordinarily potent messages. The first is that love, deep connection, is the most important, indeed the only truly important matter in the world. And the second is that true love cannot exist in this world.” Terrence Real

“Relationship is there to enhance inner experience, not to provide it.” Marla Estes

Psychotherapist Robert Stein says that by neglecting our inner lives, “we literally have enormous difficulties distinguishing inside from outside.” In this situation, “we tend to burden our [partners] with the demand to take care of our own neglected soul.” We expect our partners to do the work that we are not willing or able to do.

“Marriage is not a love affair. A love affair is a totally different thing. A marriage is a commitment to that which you are. That person is literally your other half. And you and the other are one. A love affair isn’t that. That is a relationship of pleasure, and when it gets to be unpleasurable, it’s off. But a marriage is a life commitment, and a life commitment means the prime concern of your life. If marriage is not the prime concern, you are not married.” Joseph Campbell

“That a marriage ends is less than ideal; but all things end under heaven, and if temporality is held to be invalidating, then nothing real succeeds.” John Updike

“The beginning of love is a horror of emptiness.” Robert Bly

“Love is the child of illusion and the parent of disillusion.” Miguel de Unamuno

“Love is a kind of anxious fear.” Ovid

“In love, there is always one who kisses & one who offers the cheek.” French proverb

“When you live with another person for 50 years, all of your memories are invested in that person, like a bank account of shared memories. It’s not that you refer to them constantly. In fact, for people who do not live in the past, you almost never say, “Do you remember that night we…?” But you don’t have to. That is the best of all. You know that the other person does remember. Thus, the past is part of the present as long as the other person lives. It is better than any scrapbook, because you are both living scrapbooks.” Federico Fellini

“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.” Henry Miller

“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” Tom Robbins

“When we’re incomplete, we’re always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we’re still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on–series polygamy–until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.” Tom Robbins

“Our Similarities bring us to a common ground; Our Differences allow us to be fascinated by each other” Tom Robbins

“The highest function of love is that it makes the loved one a unique and irreplaceable being.” Tom Robbins

“When two people meet and fall in love, there’s a sudden rush of magic. Magic is just naturally present then. We tend to feed on that gratuitous magic without striving to make any more. One day we wake up and find that the magic is gone. We hustle to get it back, but by then it’s usually too late, we’ve used it up. What we have to do is work like hell at making additional magic right from the start. It’s hard work, but if we can remember to do it, we greatly improve our chances of making love stay.” Tom Robbins

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion.That is just being ‘in love,’ which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches,they find that they are one tree & not two.” (Captain Corelli’s Mandolin, de Bernieres)

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